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A Peek Into My Life…

Peek into my migraine life

I am a migraine warrior

Unfortunately, migraine is a huge part of my life, and has been for about 20 years. I thought they started in my late twenties, and never knew what triggered  the beginning.

But I’ve been doing some research lately, and it’s possible I’ve always had them, but that they looked different when I was a kid. I missed a fair amount of school when I was a pre-teen – not enough to cause problems for me academically or to cause problems for my parents with school administration – because of headaches and stomachaches. The pediatrician told my mom it was “school-itis”. It was true that I didn’t like school then, so maybe he was right.

June was Migraine Awareness Month and I learned a lot from it. I was even able to teach my dad, also a Migraine Warrior, some new information (for instance about kids – if he’d known about that when I was a kid, he probably would’ve taken me to a neurologist when I was 11). (Also, shh, I’m not allowed to talk about my parents online.)

Anyway, I’ve been lucky. I don’t have Chronic Migraine, which involves 15 or more headache days per month. At my worst, I averaged 11 per month. That means I have what’s called Episodic Migraine. I’m also lucky because I’ve never ended up in the ER because of a migraine. I’ve rarely missed a work day. I rarely need to take a break from my life. I’ve become really good at pushing on and forcing the symptoms away until I’m alone or at least done with whatever most important thing needed doing that day. I don’t know why I’m able to do that. Or when. Because sometimes I can’t.

Sometimes I can’t focus on my current writing project. Sometimes I can’t handle people talking at a normal volume. Sometimes I have to skip Taekwondo.

I tried going to a neurologist about 6 years ago. He’d been recommended by my GP, who I liked at the time. We tried a couple of different drugs aimed at preventing migraines, but they didn’t work and had awful side effects. Life-endangering side effects. The last drug exacerbated my Reynaud’s Disease. When I told the neurologist, he explained that exacerbating Reynaud’s was a known side effect of this particular drug and that he didn’t know I had Reynaud’s. It came up in our first appointment.

While still on that last drug, I decided to try acupuncture. I’d been researching it and found a local place that practices what’s called Community Acupuncture. This means they see more than one patient per hour, which allows them to lower the cost per session, which is really awesome when you don’t have insurance or your insurance won’t cover preventive therapies. My research told me that acupuncture has been proven in actual scientific studies to reduce chronic pain.

My neurologist’s reaction? “Call me when you’re ready to try the next drug.”

I haven’t called him again.

acupuncture for migraine

I’ve been doing acupuncture since 2014. It took a while to figure out the points that worked best for me, for there to be a significant decrease in severity and frequency. But we got them down to about 2 headaches per month. It was amazing. I felt like I’d been given my life back.

Unfortunately, it didn’t last. Life circumstances got in the way. My job responsibilities and hours changed, and I was no longer able to travel to my acupuncturist even once a month (they’re 40 minutes away from home and an hour away from work). By the time my hours changed again and I could again commit to once a month, I was back up to about 8 migraines per month. Not as bad as before, but still demoralizing and draining. My acupuncturist changed around that same time, too, and the new one was too gentle. It took me a few months to get up the courage to tell them what had proven to work best for me.

And now I go as often as I can make the time. So far this summer, I’m going about every 10 days. Because of my age and changing hormones (always my biggest trigger), I have good hormone months and bad hormone months, which means there’s a wide range for my migraine frequency. I get between 2 and 7 migraines per month now. I hope that will improve by the end of the summer.

Sure, 5 years ago I thought I’d go for a few months and be cured, based on others I spoke to. However, my body doesn’t work that way. My body needs to be regularly reminded how to heal itself, needs to regularly have my chi pathways reopened.

Are you a Migraine Warrior? What has worked best for you? Tell me about your experience in the comments.

ETA

I’ve had an amazing response to this post through the comments below and emails from readers. I’m sorry that so many of us suffer from this terrible and misunderstood disease.

In case you’d like more information or more support, please check out these links:

Chronic Migraine Awareness, Inc.
CHAMP (Coalition for Headache and Migraine Patients)

And we can sign the Declaration of Rights for People with Headache Diseases from CHAMP.

Bisous and big hugs to all the Migraine Warriors out there!

Interracial Paranormal Romance

I was recently featured on the blog of author Carol Van Natta in a post about interracial paranormal romance books. Carol wrote a wonderful post about why we don’t see more interracial romance books, and especially those with people of color on the covers. I’m honored to be featured along with eight other PNR books. Please go check them out!

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When I wrote Pride of Africa, I wasn’t trying to be groundbreaking or even different. I’d recently come across a lot of PNR books in which the human form of a character didn’t match their animal, and this bothered me. If a shifter is an African lion, it seemed to me that the human should also be African. So I wrote a series in which the human characters matched their animals, starting with a lion.

While my next series doesn’t feature any interracial romance, my new series, Paris Harem, does. I created Martin Diop, the Senegalese elephant shifter, precisely because African elephants are my favorite animal in the world, and I didn’t get to include them in the Hotel Safari series. (Instead, there’s a Thai elephant shifter in Thai Rebound.) I had a lot of fun writing Martin and his romance with Catherine Malraux.

Please share your favorite interracial paranormal romance in the comments!

A Peek Into My Life…

Puppy Update - Foxy Apr 2019

It’s been a while since I’ve featured the new puppy on the blog (but he’s been on my Instagram and Facebook page plenty!), so it’s time for a puppy update. Foxy is now almost 8 months old and still very much led by his mouth. He chews on everything, of course – any of our body parts that come within a certain proximity of his mouth, our clothing, piano legs, any and all corners he can get his mouth around, anything he finds on the floor or the ground. He seems to especially like to bother my youngest son, now 13 years old.

Sometimes he seems amazingly smart and sometimes incredibly dumb. He mostly sits when told, but when he doesn’t get what he’s expecting quickly enough, he’ll lie down, as if he’s trying out that response to our command, just in case sitting wasn’t the correct action. He hates my laptop and will bat his paw at my hands when I’m typing, or hit the keyboard himself if I don’t move it out of the way in time.

He tries to take himself for walks by holding onto his leash with his mouth. He’s just starting to lift a leg when he pees. Yesterday my son came in from walking him and said, “He’s finally a boy.” Just in time for neutering!

And he’s very cuddly and sweet – especially when he’s not trying to bite us.

Hope you’ve enjoyed this puppy update. Tell me about your beloved fur babies in the comments.

New Year, New Puppy

Happy New Year!

My 2018 was very busy. Not bad; just busy. My day jobs took up more and more time, and I just didn’t have the time or energy for writing. But things are changing. I have some responsibilities to get out of the way in the first few months of 2019, but I’ve already started revising Saving Their Wolf, and I look forward to sharing its cover with you soon.

In the meantime, you can read the first two (unedited) chapters here and here.

Another thing that took up my time in 2018 was our new puppy. His nickname is Foxy – just look at that face! He’s now 4 months old and we’ve had him since just before Thanksgiving. You may have already seen his photos on my Facebook page or on Instagram. The whole family finds him super adorable, but he’s a lot of work. House training is going better than it had been, and other training is in progress. He mostly sits or goes to his bed when told and comes when called. He was initially reluctant to walk in the neighborhood but improves with each walk.

Feel free to share info about your own pets in the comments. I love animals!

Did you have any new additions to your family in 2018, or are you anticipating any in 2019?

For the love of reading

reading memorial

Normally, I keep religion and politics off this blog. What you believe in and what I believe in doesn’t have anything to do with enjoying my books. But today I’m going to make a tiny exception.

On Sunday I went to a memorial service for an 85-year-old woman I didn’t know. She’d spent her last 3 years at our local nursing home, where our synagogue does a service once a month. My son and I attended that service in July, and I sat next to her in her wheelchair, and turned the pages in the prayer book for her. She didn’t say a word, to me or in prayer, until the very end when she thanked me. Her daughter – a member of our synagogue – or her grandson usually came to be at the service with her, but they didn’t make it on this particular day.

She passed away a week later.

The reason I mention any of this is because I learned something really cool about her in her obituary: She loved to read mysteries! (I also love mysteries, despite what I write.) In her first year of retirement, she read 100 books. And she cataloged every book she read on index cards kept in those index card boxes that people tend not to use so much anymore. (Imagine if Goodreads had existed back in the late ’90s when she retired. This woman would’ve had impressive shelves.)

Her love of reading and my love of reading (and writing) connect us, even though we didn’t know each other. And these same things connect me to you, Dear Reader. We may not know each other, we may not share the same beliefs, but we share a love of reading. How transcendent!

If you’d like to let me get to know you, please leave a comment about a positive experience you’ve had with a stranger.

Bisous,
Tori

May Updates

Hello from Beautiful Upstate New York!

Spring has finally sprung, there are flowers in my yard, the grass is green, and the temperatures…well, they keep fluctuating between fifties and seventies, so we’re not yet fully immersed in the season.

My hours have increased at my day job, and I have started learning tae kwon do along with my kids, but I’m still making time for writing. I’m currently working on a new series set in the same world as Shifter Hunters Ltd. This time we’ll follow the adventures of Catherine Malraux, cousin to Lucien from Shifter Hunters Ltd. Set in Paris, Catherine will face a man intent on revenge while deciding whether she wants one or all of her protectors.

The new book is called, Saving Their Wolf, Book 1 in the Paris Harem series.

Keep an eye out for teasers from Saving Their Wolf and its prequel, Waking Her Wolf!

Books from Friends

Shifter Mate Magic Van Natta

Shifter Mate Magic: Ice Age Shifters Book 1 by Carol Van Natta

A lonely bear shifter meets his mate. She’s running for her life and doesn’t have time for romance.

Discover the secret world of magic and true mates in Shifter Mate Magic, the first book in USA TODAY bestselling author Carol Van Natta’s fun, action-filled, steamy-hot Ice Age Shifters™ series.

 

Romance Reads May Freebies

While waiting for my next series, find a new favorite among this fabulous selection of romance books until May 31.

bring on the romance

Here are even more free books! Check out the Bring on the Romance promo, now through June 3rd!

Paperbacks and more!

The entire Shifter Hunters Ltd. trilogy is now available in paperback on AmazonBarnes & Noble, and in some bookstores (just ask them to order it for you).

If you’ve been waiting for the trilogy to come out in a format you can hold in your hands, now’s your chance!

New PNR from Eva Chase

Do you love a steamy reverse harem paranormal romance? (Who doesn’t?) Check out the latest from Eva Chase: Consort of Secrets (The Witch’s Consorts Book 1).

Every witch knows the rules: Stick to your own kind. Never reveal your powers to outsiders. Take a consort from the witching families or kiss your magic good-bye forever.

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